Connecting to the New Year

Since 2009, my friend Alece has challenged people to approach the new year with one word, with the challenge to “Go where it takes you. Be who it makes you.” From the One Word website:

“Forget New Year’s Resolutions. Scrap that long list of goals you won’t remember a few weeks from now anyway! Choose just one word. One word you can focus on every day, all year long… One word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live.

It will take intentionality and commitment, but if you let it, your one word will shape not only your year, but also you. It will become the compass that directs your decisions and guides your steps.”

You can find out and join the One Word tribe HERE. In the meantime, I wanted to share my 2018 word: CONNECT.

In the first year following my divorce I decided I was not going to wallow in sorrow and shame and despair. So I took big bites out of life and let the juices drip down my chin. To continue the metaphor, by the end of that first year I began to see that my proverbial eyes were bigger than my proverbial stomach. I may have overcompensated just a tad.

In the second year, I went inward almost to a fault. I disconnected from many things — organizations, people, life. But, I did some things right, including using my inward focus to drop 30 pounds, get healthy, and pursue my love of writing. But I also lost many relationships and probably didn’t handle those disconnections very well.

Now, in this third year, it’s time to CONNECT again; CONNECT with life-giving relationships old and new. It’s time for the pendulum to swing back to center.

It’s time to rebuild, restore, renew. It’s time to have conversations over coffee, wine, adult beverages, and meals. It’s time to enjoy music and art and film with lovers of life. It’s time to risk letting others into my life truly and deeply with abandon.

Life is moving ever forward and it’s much too short to experience it alone. Whether the relationships are platonic or romantic (and as I get older I wonder if the line between the two gets blurrier), the adventure gets bigger next year.

My word for 2018 is CONNECT.

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