There’s this thing I do in my relationships that doesn’t bode well for staying connected with people I care about.

I have a tendency to connect most consistently with those who are in my immediate circle of activity. If circumstances move someone out of that environment or if I move on, I find that I’m not a good “pursuer” of people. People who were at one time very close to me tend to be forgotten or left in the wake of my moving on.

So many people are on a list of those whom I care deeply about and, were they involved in my immediate community, would remain in contact with. I’m not really sure why I do this. When moving on becomes inevitable I’ve become accustomed to refraining from the following platitudes:

“Let’s keep in touch.”
“Don’t be a stranger.”
“Let’s be sure to grab lunch soon.”

History exposes that I don’t keep in touch. I will occasionally forget names. Lunch never happens.

This year, I’m making an effort to reach out to a handful of people that I allowed to drift away from my life. I may not reconnect with everyone I’d like to, but it won’t be without an honest effort.

Who do you need to reconnect with?